Tuesday, October 6, 2015
OCTOBER IS ADHD AWARENESS MONTH!
In honor of ADHD Awareness Month,
Monday, September 7, 2015
. . . that as of today, 4 of the top 20 best selling books on Amazon include adult coloring books?
Secret Garden by Johanna Basford has been in the #1 spot on and off for the past several months. Back in the spring and early summer, The Secret Garden and her 2nd book, Enchanted Forest, were virtually impossible to find anywhere because they were sold out of stores and on back order on line. In fact, Enchanted Forest is currently listed as "temporarily out of stock" on Amazon.
Basford has a new book coming out at the end of October, Lost Ocean. Based on the popularity of her previous books and the current adult coloring craze, along with the pre-holiday release date of 10/27, I suggest that if you're interested in this one, that you pre-order asap. (I have already done so.)
And, BTW, I'm only mentioning Basford's book because I saw she has this new one coming out and they appear to be the most widely recognized titles. They are great books, but there are many, many, MANY others and they seem to be multiplying exponentially. I am particularly partial to any kind of mandala coloring patterns and Animal Kingdom by Millie Marotta. I also like creating my own designs to color.
Stay tuned for more thoughts and information about coloring and just why people are so drawn to this. (See what I did there?) :-)
Wednesday, August 26, 2015
JUST SAY OOPS AND MOVE ON
“In The Producers (1967), the opening scene features Zero Mostel as a cheesy, second-rate producer, reduced to wooing little old ladies to get financial backing. He is playing a racy little game with one of his elderly paramours when Gene Wilder walks in on them. Gene, playing an anxious accountant prone to panic attacks, freezes and starts hyperventilating. Zero, in a soothing voice (but with an underlying subtext of menace), talks Gene out of the room. He says “oops, just say oops, back out and close the door…”
Kate Kelly & Peggy Ramundo
from “You Mean I’m Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!”
Learning to “just
say oops” is not easy but it is a prerequisite for moving forward, finding
peace and simply enjoying our lives.
Often, we silently, (and sometimes not so silently) berate ourselves for
every little misstep, mistake or lapse in judgment. It may have started early
in life by parents, teachers or siblings.
When we grow up, we stand in
for those people by judging, criticizing and bullying ourselves.
first and best way to STOP that cycle is to notice that we are doing it, in the
moment that we are doing it. Often,
simply by noticing, there is an organic shift.
However, in this case, it will likely take some conscious effort to
change this pattern of thought, speech and behavior.
After noticing, the
next step is to be a bit more gentle with ourselves and to give ourselves
permission not to strive for perfection.
Perhaps the first step is to “just say oops” and move on.
This shift may take a long time, but practice makes PROGRESS.
Thursday, June 18, 2015
When you think about meditation, what is the first image that pops into your head?
For most people, it's likely of a person sitting still, cross-legged, with hands resting on knees, palms up. That is certainly consistent with what many of us know and associate with classic meditation.
However, it may come as a surprise to you that you do not have to sit still for a long period of time, repeating the word 'om' or some other mantra while vainly trying to chase away your omnipresent thoughts. Don't get me wrong - despite my apparent sarcasm, I do not begrudge the people who are lucky enough to possess the discipline and capacity to achieve the consistency, stillness and zen state to which we all aspire. I simply don't happen to be one of them. And anyway, even if you do have the ability to meditate this way, you may not like or choose to. Because I have been able to meditate in the classic manner, on occasion (in the past), I do know how it feels and what a big difference it can make, and not only while you are meditating or immediately following it, but generally in your life.
Meditation provides a myriad of benefits and rewards: decreased stress and anxiety, improved physical and mental health, a sense of wellbeing, improved sleep, more self- awareness, better focus and many more . . .
The GOOD NEWS is that it's possible to meditate in other ways! It just does not need to be that complicated or rigid. (irony, huh?) ;-) Why not try what some call active meditation? Active mediation is simply focusing your mind on the activity you are performing, right at that moment and not thinking about anything else. Typically, meditation is intended to create a calm and peaceful mind, but some types of active meditation can help create a calm body as well. And in my personal experience, one often feeds the other. Here are some examples of active meditation:
- Walking, running, biking, or any form of activity that is repetitive and does not require thought about strategy (or anything else);
- Cleaning - the type that has you working on the same thing or set of things for a period of time (such as scrubbing, polishing or wiping);
- Many forms of gardening and in particular, weeding;
- Tai chi, qigong and dance;
AND MY PERSONAL FAVORITE . . . (insert drumroll)
- COLORING and other forms of art and creation!
Most artists likely know that the repetitive motions of painting, blending color, throwing pots, sculpting, drawing, needlework, or decoupage often organically induce that wonderful state of just being. When you are in this space, which some also call flow, you can lose time and are become oblivious to outside noises and activity. Your breathing becomes more regular and if you have thoughts other than about what you are doing, they are much fewer in number and frequency than usual and what you are doing naturally beckons you back to what is (literally) at hand.
If you don't consider yourself to be an artist or even mildly artistic, don't despair! One of the best ways to engage in this type of active meditation is simply by coloring. In a coloring book. Yes, really! :-) It can be a 4-yr-old's coloring book or a 10-yr-old's book OR you can buy your own book. If you do choose to buy your own "adult" coloring book, you will not have to look too hard or far to find one. It appears to be the hot new thing and these books are flying off the shelves of stores and Amazon can't keep them in stock. Personally, I have been "coloring" for my whole life so it's a bit interesting to me that the rest of the world seems the have 'just' discovered the pleasures and benefits.
Although you can absolutely do any kind of coloring to relax and slow down, what is important is that that you move rhythmically and slowly. Moving your hands in circular and spiral motions can be somewhat hypnotic, which can help you to calm and slow down. Images with many patterns and repetition are especially helpful in fostering this relaxed state of being, so mandalas, zentangles, geometric and kaleidoscopic designs are a great choice. It doesn't matter whether you use crayons, markers or colored pencils; use what you prefer, what works with your design or simply what you happen to have on hand.
The following are some examples of 'adult' coloring books:
Each photo is a link to Amazon, where you will find more titles than you could have imagined actually existed. These three books make up a very small portion of my personal collection. :-)
If you do try any of these forms of meditation and you have good results or just want to share your experience, I would love to hear from you.
In addition, if you'd like to learn a bit more about this and to try it in a small group setting or without having to research the coloring books or make any decisions, I am running a class on July 16th called, "Coloring for Relaxation, Meditation & Focus."